Recently, a few bloggers wrote about how the things you say affect those around you....and I've been thinking about that a lot lately.
So easily said...yet they sit like leaves on the surface of the water...and slowly...ever so slowly, settle. Sometimes they hurt...sometimes they boost you--all depends on who is saying what, you know? Most times, I don't even think about what I'm saying or how it affects those around me....I'm sure you do the same, no?
And while you may think that the words you say don't matter--they do. I'm telling you, I can tell you who said something particularly odd or cruel to me back 30 years ago--some things just sit there forever. Or I can remember the stupid stuff I've said to others as well. Criminy, why is the bad stuff always so easy to remember?
A co-worker told me this story yesterday and it made me laugh:
Corporate guy comes in from a meeting with the CEO and he's all excited because the head honcho actually gave him a compliment--something he's definitely not known for. He quotes the CEO talking to him, "Fred, you are not as dumb as I thought you were!"Sigh. I guess that's about as good as it gets with that guy and Fred was happy with that. Heck, I guess it could have been worse, right? Still...it was nasty...no matter how it was delivered. I'm just glad Fred laughed it off--or did he?
With the weather so gloomy and winter hanging on just a tad too long, I find that I'm a wee bit sensitive to words these days. While I can blow off idiotic comments about me on most days, I find I'm buggin' out about this or that...letting others get into the craw and mess with the soul. I'm sure that once the sunshine returns and the weather starts to break, I'll find my armor once again. But for now...I'm working on letting it all slide.
"Working on it" are the keys words in that sentence.