Tuesday, November 9, 2010

The Map

I didn't write much about my vacation this year--I dunno, I just didn't feel like it. It was a week of introspection and one where I sort of drew some lines for myself personally. So, while I looked like I just wanted to chill on the outside, my mind was busy thinking on the inside. And let me tell you, that did not go over big with those around me.

I like getting older because I find that I do things now that entail less drama and create a whole lot more zen. And as time goes on, I like how I feel without engaging myself in others' problems, worrying about who is doing what, and taking the path of least resistance.

I've been doing more of that lately, kinda just laughing more and keeping an even keel to my life--I like the calm that it brings. I like making the extra effort to find fun in things and handling the problems of life that arise and moving along back to peace. It's a good feeling and definitely a good place for me to be.

One of the fun things we did on vacation was to take a trip to an old coal mining camp. There was a slow train ride up to the camp where we spent the afternoon walking around learning about the history of the area, and then enjoyed the leisurely ride back again. It was cool to take a trip back to a time when life was a whole lot slower--albeit a little dirtier.

Standing there amazed at the map of mine tunnels, it struck me that it looked like my brain. Lots of channels and pathways to go--it is just a matter of choice of what direction to take. And while some of those tunnels lead to bounty, still others can lead to dead-ends. Even more scary were the ones that possibly lead to death.

And while my life is nowhere as dramatic as that, I thought long and hard about the choices we make and how the choice to be happy can be possible. So, while that map of tunnels and paths looks very ominous, I think it is possible to find some happy routes along the way.

Last year I wrote of our inner tube ride and how we need to fight the river a whole lot less, and it is by coincidence that this mine camp is also the launch site for the inner tubes. Funny how I found myself, physically and figuratively, at that same spot where I found my zen last year. What is it about those hills in Kentucky that whispers to me to slow down and find less drama in my life?

16 comments:

Helene said...

Alex and I are supposed to go to western KY for Thanksgiving. Maybe I'll find less drama there.

Catherine said...

Our brains to get filled so much with stuff that isn't important doesn't it Sometimes we have to keep putting things into perspective. Sounds like Kentucky was the place for you to be! Good for you Lin!

Happy Tuesday!
xo Catherine

vanilla said...

Introspection is good. So is slowing down, and excising drama from our lives. Profitable vacation you had.

Anne said...

I can't stand drama. While I have never liked it, I have found it easier to avoid as I get older. Of course, now I have a middle schooler so recently, the drama abounds.

Nancy said...

Amen! It's nice to have a place to visit that reconnects you with your peace.

Grace said...

I don't follow this - but if you're happy, I'm happy for you. It's been years since I have had "drama" in my life, and I'm never quite sure what people mean when they use that word - "drama".

Pricilla said...

You have found your place of peace.Just go with it. Mine, sadly is in Hawaii. I find it in my mind.

Lin said...

Helene--I hope so too. Tell the state of Kentucky that I sent you. ;)

Catherine--You are very right. Peace is something that you have to keep reminding yourself to get back to because our lives don't help us much in that department. I like my week in Kentucky--there is something about that slow that helps me a ton.

Vanilla--I have to make a very conscious decision to remove negative forces from our lives. Meaning in my thoughts, words, and actions. I had to learn to not be so reactive to others and that has helped a ton. Good place to be.

Anne--Last year for Lent, I told my teens that I was giving up drama and what a brilliant idea! When they were pushing my buttons, I learned to walk away, saying "I gave it up for Lent". You know, I think I gave it up for good now. It is easier to disconnect when you get older.

Nancy--I think that "place" is somewhere different for everyone and it doesn't necessarily have to be a physical place either. I guess KY is the physical and the mental place I visit most for my peace.

Grace--Drama is excitement, gossip, worrying too much about someone else, getting caught up in someone else's problems, etc. It can be at every turn if you let it, but I've learned (or maybe matured) to avoid it. I walk away from it now, which folks don't like very much. They want to engage you in their "drama" I have found.

Pricilla--Oh,yes. Hawaii is a lovely place to find your peace. Can I come visit you there sometime?? ;)

Ann said...

I've run in to all those dead ends that are on the map in my brain. I know exactly what you mean about slowing down and finding the inner peace. Who cares about what everyone else is doing, it's time to make number one happy

Lenox Knits said...

What a great post. You are lucky that your zen place is relatively close to home. New Mexico was like that for me but it's not a car ride away unfortunatly. I think I need to do some exploring around here to find another place that speaks to me like that.

LJ said...

You're just making me want to go on vacation right now! To anywhere (warm)! Disneyworld is sounding pretty good to me a the moment.

BeadedTail said...

I've been feeling like I'm burning the candle at both ends lately and the stress is just about ready to do me in so I have been looking for zen but haven't found it. Maybe I need to go to Kentucky or at least get some of that Kentucky bourbon!

SLColman said...

Finding your Zen is an important thing :) Sometimes there are just special places that allow us to figure things out!! I am glad that you seem to have found your spot.

-Nellie and Jonathan said...

I'm with you. Drama should be left for the thespians :) I, on the other hand want peace and quiet, calm and serenity.

Lin said...

Ann--For me, it is about taking my own path and not following others and finding their dead-end or cave-in. There are enough paths there, I think everyone should take their own. And I'm not worrying about who's doing what. It's a good place to be.

Lenox Knits--Notice how I had to go back to my photos to visit that place. ;) See? I think it can be "visited" in other ways and that is okay too. However you get there.

LJ--Vacation does sound nice right about now. Or maybe in a few weeks when all the Christmas madness is taking hold. Let's go!! ;)

Beaded Tail--Uh oh. And you still have tax season ahead of you!! Don't stress now, pally!

Stephanie--And sometimes it doesn't have to be far. My pond is a great place to chill--except for when the raccoons were here ruining the fun. :(

Nellie--I'm not sure if I just crave peace more as I get older or if it is just easier to achieve. Either way, I can't do that drama stuff anymore.

Casey said...

Woah, Lin... you're going deep today. My mind tunnels aren't advanced enough for this kind of writing! ;)