Monday, August 30, 2010

She Gone!

I talked to my neighbor, Laura, yesterday. Yeah, I know what you are thinking....."Lin?! Talking to her neighbors?? Hmmmm. I thought Lin hates her neighbors???!"

Yeah, yeah. I do. But Laura lives a few doors down and on the other side of the street. So, really, she's kinda down the block where I can't see her and she doesn't drive me nuts. Plus she is fun and we do stuff together every once in awhile and she got me hired at the place I work. I guess you could say we are friends and neighbors--a rare thing for me.

Anyway, while we were talking, she mentioned that her next-door neighbor had died that morning. I guess the woman died in her sleep, watching the tube. And while that is sad, all I kept thinking was "Hey, that's the way to go"--well, if you gotta go, right?

We have some pretty stinky neighbors around these parts and Laura pretty much agrees with me on that, so it isn't just me who doesn't want to talk to these weirdos around here. But she was sad that this lady died. Me? I didn't really care.

My only experience with this woman was her butting in when we were having problems with the neighbors behind us a few years ago. She was all about going over there with her friend to see what was going on and peering over our fence--which was the bone of contention with that neighbor. So, she sorta miffed me because she hasn't spoken to me in 20 years, but she can stick her nose into my problems. Go figure. Some folks are like that.

So, while Laura was all sad and talking about the wake, I was all like "Oh, that is sad", but I didn't give a hoot. I didn't feel a thing--not sad, not happy, not angry for what she did, nor sympathy for the family. I was void of feeling. Isn't that weird??

The sole thought I had was how that was a really peaceful way to die.

30 comments:

Helene said...

Sounds like my neighbor next door. But he is still around. I'm saving my ace for when I need it. He doesn't know I know he had a thing going with my daughter when she was 19. He was prob 55.
Be careful about your happiness-you never know what will move in, in her place.

A.Marie said...

I'd better knock on some wood when I type this, because as of right now, I have really good neighbors. *knocking on wood*

I like Helene's comment..."Be careful about your happiness-you never know what will move in, in her place." SO TRUE!!!

Lin said...

Helene--I think I would have had it out with that weirdo a LONG time ago! I'm not happy she's dead--just void of emotion when I heard she passed. And I'm fully aware of bad neighbors who move in--I'm surrounded by them!

A.Marie--Well, her husband is still alive and even if he moves, it is down the block and doesn't really affect me. Besides, I have the nightmare neighbors of the block surrounding me already!

Catherine said...

My hubby's Grandpa, at the age of 86, died during his sleep one afternoon while laying in his Lazy-Boy chair, drinking a beer, watching his favourite sport of curling on TV. I don't think it gets too much better then that does it?

xo Catherine

cardiogirl said...

Well, I think there's not a huge knowledge base to draw from with that woman. Beyond the fence thing and clearly that didn't make a huge dent in your memory.

So the only common thing here is that both of you are going to experience death. Well she has, you're going to, so that's what you're thinking about.

I'd want to go that way, too. If I could choose.

Diana - FreeStyleMama said...

I wonder what she was watching!?

Melodie said...

I like Diana's question! Just what WAS she watching?????? I may want to avoid that particular show in the future!

JODI said...

Ha, I was thinking, as I read, exactly what Diana asks. I actually thought the post was going to be about what was on her TV when she was found. Maybe she was watching porn and she got so excited she...well you know....

Bossy Betty said...

I hope she was eating a really good snack when she went.

Shieldmaiden96 said...

I don't know that its weird not to be sad; we aren't obligated to be sad every time someone dies.

There was a time in my life when every death that happened in my periphery affected me in some way...I'd dwell on it and dwell on it until it upset me. Then I became an EMT, and somewhere between my third trauma arrest and my first suicide I realized that I'd better cut that out or I wouldn't last long. You have to gatekeep what you let in and what you let by.

One interesting thing, tough-- my last OD suicide had a movie in his DVD player and while we were waiting for the coroner I HAD TO KNOW what he watched as his deliberately chosen last movie.

The Hulk...the new one.
Is that weird or what?

Nancy said...

Well, that is true. All you can hope for for yourself and anyone you love is to die that way. But what is there to say when someone dies who you don't even know? Life goes on.

Anna said...

While you are on the subject of death, could you please visit my blog and read the interview wth Patricia Rockwell about her new cozy mystery Sounds of Murder??
Thanks
Anna

Anna interviews Patricia Rockwell

Anna said...

Pretty Please?

Pricilla said...

Quite the lovely way to go if you ask me.
Why should you feel anything for someone you don't really know. Yes it's sad for her family but we are all gonna go sometime...if the whole world just stopped every time one person died nothing would get done.

I'm heartless, I know.

Grace said...

And that thought was enough...Moving on now - it's hotter'n hell here today.

Karen, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry" said...

That is definitely a nice way to go. I feel sad though for whoever it was who found her dead. That's always a shock!

blueviolet said...

I know you're not being heartless. It's just that you had no connection to her so her passing really doesn't have bearing on your life.

Ann said...

Just today at work they were talking about a guy who comes in all the time who had died the other day. They were the same way, all sad and stuff. Me? I think I said "Oh, that's too bad" and then went back to what I was doing. So I guess I'm weird too...lol and for the record, If I have a choice, I want to die in my sleep too

Ratty said...

You sound pretty normal to me. Any of us are only sad about the people we really get to know well, in whatever way that may be. And I do agree that going while asleep would be the best way.

SLColman said...

In a town of less than 300 people everyone knows everyone... Very few would I call friends.
I agree that I want to go like she did nice and peaceful and uneventful.

Lin said...

Catherine--Oh, man. Going down with a beer watching curling??! It's a dream of mine. :)

CG--Well, I guess I don't have a good opinion of her after the neighbor thing, but not enough to be mean about her death. I guess not saying anything is better than saying something, right? Nobody deserves to suffer at the end.

Diana--Hahaha!! I like that-it made me laugh.

Melodie--I liked that too. Well, at least I hope it was something good.

Jodi--I don't know, but I did see the couch out on the curb today. I'm thinking she must have been sitting on the couch when it happened. Ick.

Betty--Yeah, having a cocktail and enjoying a show. Can't beat that!

Shieldmaiden--Maybe the Hulk pushed him over the edge, you know? Some movies are just soooo bad. ;) I get what you are saying about disconnecting. I have that ability too.

Nancy--Yeah. I didn't really like the lady considering she was all in my business, but I can't wish her bad because of it. Moving on....

Anna--I did and it was great! Great interview, pally! I liked your questions because those are the things I was wondering.

Pricilla--You are not heartless--just realistic. I think you become less emotional about death when you have animals. It's not that we are immune, but you pick and choose your tears. I'm not crying for some batty neighbor.

Grace--I like that Grace. :) You are so my kinda gal. Hee! Hee! It's hot here too.

Karen--I guess her husband thought she was asleep on the couch and tried to wake her. Yeah, even if he is a weirdo, you gotta feel for that.

Violet--Right! But it is funny when you notice that you are empty. It just struck me odd.

Ann--I'm not wasting tears on somebody I don't care about. Nope. I'm glad I am not alone in this one.

Ratty--I can't think of a better way to go, can you? Nobody suffered.

Stephanie--I guess you are like me. I choose my friends carefully and just because I happen to live by you, doesn't make you my friend. I've made that mistake too many times. And I have gotten burned by that as well.

VanillaSeven said...

Passed away in sleep is surely a great way to depart from this world.

Veronica Lee said...

Great way to go. I would hate having to wait for death hooked up to some beeping machine for months/years. I did tell Hubby to pull the plug if I'm ever in that situation.

Yay for your neighbour. I wish that obnoxious lady on the fifth floor will croak soon.

Lin said...

Veronica--Shhhhh, don't tell anyone--I have a neighbor directly across the street that is so mean, I wish he would be next. Or first. Or something. I can't tell you how many times I have come home from a funeral of a good friend to see that big jerk standing there. God works in mysterious ways.

Helene said...

Except for my neighbor's cop brother who was killed in July-and he didn't even live here anymore-I would have no emotion over any of my neighbors. Ever hear Jaron's song Pray For You? To me it applies to my neighbors too.

Petula said...

Yea, I understand the void of emotion feeling. I was recently saddened to hear about the children's great grandmother (their dad's grandmother) and concerned about how they were dealing with it, but the feelings were just non-existent. I guess we're weird together.

Lin said...

V7--Ooops, I almost missed you up there! I can't think of a better way to go--it's quick and painless.

Helene--I'm with you with the neighbors--I have absolutely no feeling for them. We've been through too much.

Petula--I think maybe it is a healthy way of coping. Well, that is what I think anyway. They say that really old people live longer because they have the ability to cope with loss--criminy, I'm gonna live forever. ugh.

Casey said...

Nah, I'm dead inside too. We're kindred spirits, you and I.

Casey said...

BTW, I've totally been wishing the old lady next door would hurry up and croak. She's been on dialysis for 2+ years and an ambulance picks her up every other day at 5:45. The fucking thing backs up BEEEP BEEP BEEEEEEEEEEPING the length of the driveway and wakes up my kids every fucking time. Die, bitch, die.

Sorry, I felt like this was a safe place where I could say stuff like that.

Lin said...

Casey--I have this uncanny ability to totally disconnect and I don't know why. It is my coping skill--but that infuriates people around me. They are all like "how can you NOT care?" and I just shrug my shoulders. Whatever. I LOVE your ambulance story!! That is hilarious!! I'm glad you felt safe here--I'm totally with you on that. I have a mean old neighbor that I secretly wish he would be next. Don't tell anyone, okay?